Selector does not match
The commonest reason a Service returns connection refused with nothing in the logs
apiVersion: v1
kind: Service
metadata:
name: api
spec:
selector:
app: api
ports:
- port: 80
targetPort: 8080
---
apiVersion: apps/v1
kind: Deployment
metadata:
name: api
spec:
template:
metadata:
labels:
app: web